How to handle anger with care

      Types of Anger Reaction

1.                Slammer – slams anything he sees around him.

2.    Hitter – hits the door or the person he is angry to.

3.    Quiet – suddenly remains quiet for a long time.

4.    Yeller – yells out to the person abruptly.

Which type of anger reaction do you fall in?

I.                  Problem of Anger

We get easily clouded with our intense personal emotions when stroked with anger. Then, we react severely to the point that we mutate like a tiger, lion or any other fierce creatures ready to devour the person they are angry to. 

Man’s anger is natural. 

But…

It is vengeful too.

It is not a sin to feel anger. We only commit sin by the way we react to it.

II.               The Roots of Anger

Anger comes from media especially from the movies we watch every other day.

If you fill your heart with moral filth, it will react the same way.

Anger has two Ps: Pride and Pleasure.

Anger satisfies these two Ps which make us to sin.

Satan desires factions, destruction, and hate to one another that’s why we have to be careful whenever we feel anger to our brothers and sisters.

Therefore, beware of sinful anger.

III.            The Solutions to Anger

Listening is a very effective tool to prevent us from sinful anger.

When we listen, it means we respect and value their perspective.

Listening also helps us understand the circumstances and speak wisely.

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can SAVE you. (James 1:19-21) -NIV

Replace Pride and Pleasure with Patience and Humility.

It is not easy but it can be done.

Remember that anger and vengeance destroy you more than the people you are angry with. 

If there’s a right person to be angry, that should be Jesus who was beaten, humiliated, and nailed on the cross with His innocence.

Sweet Revenge: How sweet are you?

What would you do if any of the following circumstances happened to you?

1. If  you found out your girlfriend/boyfriend cheats on you;
2. If one of your colleague insulted you in front of  other colleagues;
3. If someone took advantage on your generosity; and
4. If someone killed the person you love.



Most of us would probably say, “Wait for the payback time!”, "I shall never forgive you!",

We have a natural tendency to fight back someone who wounded us deeply. We want them to get hurt twice more than they did. We think about getting even, and settling the score, then we forget to forgive.We do this thing because we believe in this old law:


“An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth.”

BUT…


Jesus doesn’t want us to fight back.

There’s a following line omitted to the law. (Matthew 5:39)


“…Do not resist an evil person".


Romans 12:17-21 (NIV) Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody.


Don’t do evil just because someone did evil to you. This is lame and childish. Don’t you recall when you used to argue with your brothers or sisters over a toy or a lollipop when mom or dad arrives, we pinpoint at one another and say, "He started it first!

When I tell my old friends about forgiving someone, they would always say...

"If no one stands up to the aggressor, if we don’t give him what he deserves, then he’s just going to keep on doing it!"


Well it sounds heroic and justified but God had answered it already before it happened to you.


“Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord.


This policy is not a lack of justice. It is a call not to take personal revenge in order to get justice. Leave justice and revenge to God.



Overcome evil with kindness, as the Lord says.

Jesus has the rights to say this because He sets as the best example. He has been insulted, slapped, tortured,humiliated and crucified on the cross of our sins.Yet, He didn’t move a muscle to fight them back. Not even  a single thought of revenge flashed in His mind. He did not stoop on their level because He knew they didn't know what they were doing. Instead, He gave forgiveness and salvation. Not Vengeance nor Hatred.

So, never let your thirst for justice turn into a quest for revenge. Don’t get even. You’ve been attacked and cheated, forced and taken advantage of. But answer evil with kindness and then leave everything else to God.

Pacify. Endure. Forgive

Forgiveness 

by Mr. Felix Pineda

It is a trait a person must possess
When sins he has to confess
It is easy to utter it
But often times hard to forget.

Man's forgiveness sometimes a lie
For at his back there is a cry
He would then say, " I'm just a man,
The pain it caused still in mind"

In love affair if forgiveness has no treatment
Its ultimate end " cool off " and no again
In a couple once forgiveness is not settled
A broken home; a broken dream are melted.

Forgiveness is quite universal
Positively if followed life is cordial
Negatively if not pursued life is fatal
Which of the two is man's focal?

Guys be reminded forgiveness is from God
Lesson it brings to all of us a real guide
How many times let us forgive to a defiled?
Not seven times but seven times ten as implied.


Vengeance is sweet momentarily and it has a long lasting bitterness.

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